Spit the Spat of the Splatter!

Do we actually mean the words we say in our everyday life...?

Or we just say things to be the music to the ears of others at that particular moment?

Do we say things just to avoid unhealthy confrontations that we foresee might take place?

Do we say things just to win their hearts, or to get accolades?

Or do we say things to strengthen the bond of a friendship?

Do we do that, to sheer promising and joyful atmosphere?

Or do we say things just because those are the expected out of us? 
                          ...Out of fear?   
                                         ...Out of subjugation?

Do we really mean of what we say and have said to others?

Indeed, there are so many reasons and intentions one has in mind before spitting the words...

be it out of gnosis, wisdom, intelligence or cognitive content...

 be it out of good or cruel intentions...

be it out of truthful, conforming to truth or otherwise...right?

No matter how much more or less of the words splattered, we have always wish to be the "saint" to ignite,  

beautiful thoughts... 
              happy moments... 
                           aspiring effects and outcomes... 

as much as though bringing fairy tales to reality...

And no matter how much effort we placed in order to do just that, we must as well prepare...that it does not always turns out as how we had hoped it to be... 

darn!...a big yikes!

But as much as the knowledge and information are concerned, those are definitely not the only two that we require, to "license" us spattering the vocabs out in the open as we wish to...

Commonly, as we have been taught, another three follows the "mother goose"...Quack! Quack!...heeee...

3 C's

        Courteous...

                     Clarity...

                            Concise... 

Of course, without leaving behind the "ugly duckling"...the indispensable ever...

Honest...

So guyz!...do we really mean those things we say and have said to others...honestly?...

Spit the Spat of the Splatter huh???!...

The Crux of the Essence...

Let me take you back in time...year 2001. I remembered back then, many many years ago of a movie titled

           "Beautiful Minds"

...starred hunky lead actors, Russell Crowe along with Ed Harris...A movie that kinda changed my entire perspective over "gifted" human beings...

Let me take you through a little into it...

The story was about a genius weirdo, nerdie brilliant mathematician, who had ascended in becoming a world-renowned professor, recognized and awarded by an international acclaimed foundation...the Nobel prize winner. 

He sees things so very much differently from a normal being...and was actually combating against paranoid schizophrenia...a condition where one experiences hallucinations and delusional events throughout one's life that completely unseen by others...

Yes, they are different from us I must say. Totally out of the norm. 

          But how do we perceive over these people?...

What kind of first impression we would have given 

should we came across them on the street?...

 Would we be welcoming them?...

                              Or would we be lending them a helping hand?... 

                Or we will just shut them off?

Hmm...hold that thought!...continuing on...and because of him being in the group of "divergent evolution", he was seen as a geek and a lunatic to be exact, throughout the whole of his journey in school and varsity...

          Why?...

Just because we do not share the same view 

over certain issues or topic?

       Or just because he did not impose the norm  

characters as others do? 

                 Or just because he had a wardrobe malfunction 

in an out-of-trend apparel from the much 

acceptable current fashion world? 

                            Or even just because these people were seen 

actively conversing deeply all by themselves?...or even at the thought of...well...were they truly alone at the time...as what it seems to be on our naked eye...?

Hmm...

Each of us are born uniquely of course...be that of traits, characters, personality, interests, preferences, dreams, visions...and what not...All of these uniqueness permeates complexity that entails distinctions in thoughts...or even resulting in many different approaches of managing things in our everyday life...

No matter how distinctive we are from each other, there is one true thing that could bring us to a great unity indefinitely...As my hubby always bring to mind...and pulls my "life chord" back to where things "should be"...and how things are "supposed to be"...

...and that one true thing is no other than...our religious faith & belief...

The responsive reactions that we project depends on how much belief & faith we have...on how much knowledge we have over certain motions or topics contended. Be it of the goods or the bads...

The more knowledge we have over one specific focus, the more confidence we would be in talking about it...and the more comfortable we would have become, with higher acceptances from out there, in entertaining one's doubts or queries over issues...

...with a full guidance from Allah of course...In shaa Allah.

...easy said than done huh??!...well...that's just the way it is...

KS Bawani, UUM Law student vs Sharifah Zohra Jabeen Syed Shah Miskin, President of Suara Wanita 1Malaysia (SW1M)

It is such an outrageous "uproar" effect this video has brought to our nation, be it to the group of students, to the academicians, or even to the civilians out there.

Viewing a playback of this, it had sent me a strong great urge to write in expressing my humblest 2cents opinion, NOT as a degree holder of a university, but merely, simply, as a modest Malaysian citizen. 

As much as many others had gone through in life,  I had gone through the same of many phases being in primary, secondary, as well as in the tertiary educational levels. We have always been instilled to be confident, to be brave, to have courage, to diminish our fears, to be at forefront to express opinions, its a 2-way communications, to exchange thoughts, to clarify doubts, to accept criticism...and the credentials list just goes on...bla bla bla...

But to my utmost sane mind, I found this video scene a little disturbing and indeed, a disgraceful incident, a shame to many, generally...to the distinguished educators and academicians, specifically. 

I do acknowledged that Madam Sharifah Zohra Jabeen Syed Shah Miskin is one bright such eloquent and articulate individual, as based on her ability to dazzle the words vividly and fluently with her facile tongue. However, unfortunately as someone being in the position to lead, she had failed to deliberate and to respond with focus or even with substance to KS Bawani's motion. And who is KS Bawani? She is a degree holder in Psychology from UKM. And now a law student in UUM, pursuing her 2nd degree in tertiary educational level and is very much still an undergraduate. Madam speaker failed to respond efficaciously to an undergraduate?

Having to witness the unprofessional act and respond makes me wonder, igniting doubts over her ability in facing other far more greater challenges ahead of time as the President of Suara Wanita 1Malaysia (SW1M)...or...if she is the right candidate to even uphold the presidency of SW1M.

1Listen...
"...Listen...Listen...Listen...Listen...Listen...Listen...Listen..."...repeated for 7 times.
"...Question No.1, in this programme we allow you to speak. No.2, when I speak, you listen."

Listen to others in order to be heard. When we fail to listen, we will fail to deliberate effectively and wisely. When we opt to stop listening to others, others will do exactly just that, in return.
 

2Respect...
Abruptly stopped someone from finishing their lines of thoughts / minds...
     Pulling the mic away from the person when they are still speaking...
Engaging crowds as supporters with the intention to humiliate the person openly...
               "...did I give her respect?..."
                  "...I came out to her, shook hands to her and gave her respect as another woman..."
                  "...kita tak burukkan you ye..."

Respect is to be earned. Not demanded. Level of education one has, indeed, is not the determinant or the indicator that one is with the ability to fully understand what RESPECT defines as...and by thanking & shaking ones hand for few seconds DOES NOT acknowledge that one has already pays the respect to another.

3Comparisons made to other countries...
"...jangan samakan negara kita dengan negara lain..."
"...sekiranya negara malaysia disamakan dengan negara lain, what are you doing in malaysia?..."
"...go to Cuba...go to Argentina...go to Libya...go to everywhere..."

Comparisons to other countries are very much relevant towards the nation's growth, be it economically or even generally as a whole, in reaching Malaysian 2020's vision. If we are not supposed to compare with other nations in other countries, then this would be a contradicting statement to the governments effort implementing Look East Policy for the last 30 years, which had been first introduced and took effect back from 1982. It is still very much in place at current and it is still relevant for the next 30 years.

4Personal judgement...
"...because all the students in this hall are happy with whatever the government does for them..."
and, 
"...di sini hari ini, cik, setiap satu manusia dalam sini semua ada pendidikan..."
"...and today am very sorry that simultaneously you have proven that you have the very least of pendidikan..." 
"...do you know what pendidikan you need?..."
"...No.1 respect the adults...respect the adults..."
"...No.2 always have a differentiation gap between age...that's why you have your mother, grandmother, daughter, child, babies..."  
and;
"...no matter what you say, you are still in UUM...respect you by all means, you are still here...if you are not happy, you are very much suitable to go to another university..." 
 

Personal judgements are not the main agenda and objective of SW1M. As the President, I believe Madam speaker is very well-versed with those of which has been outlined in leading this Non-Profit Organization (NGO). Emotional responds as such were completely irrelevant to Bawani's voiced issues.

5Animal rights...
"...do you think only humans have problems?..."
"...animals have problems...kucing ada masalah...anjing ada masalah...lembu kambing pun ada masalah...ikan ada masalah...kita manusia lebih rakus daripada ikan...and you tau tak binatang apa yg paling bnyk ada masalah?...ikan jerung...pernah makan shark's fin soup?..."

Malaysian Dogs Deserve Better (MDDB), Society to Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (SPCA), PAWS Animal Welfare Society and Save a Stray (SAS) are amongst the many animal rights organizations established to tackle issues pertaining to animal rights. Let us leave these issues to the NGOs as mentioned. I believe, issues on animal rights are not included as part of the agenda by organizing Forum Suara Mahasiswa in UUM recently.

6Behold a stand...Behold the right principles...
I am indeed on the same page with Guna Raj, on his uploaded photo of the UUM students clapping, with imprinted text of...
          "Please think carefully before you clap..."
On what grounds do we extend our support to Madam speaker, specifically pertaining to how she responded to Bawani's motion?
On what principle do the many in the hall gave a big round of applause to Madam speaker's calling out in engaging support to her intention in humiliating Bawani?...and at the same time uttered...  "kita tak burukkan u yea.."...

When Bawani voiced out her issues, a BIG round of applause from the many in the hall, giving support to Bawani. 

When Madam speaker called out to gather support, not in favour of Bawani, a BIG round of applause from the many in the hall, giving support to Madam speaker...

WHERE do we stand? In fact, what ARE our stands? WHAT are we fighting for by having such of this event? 

When emotion overruled intelligence, ill and cruel intentions became crystal clear, overpowered the sacred struggle set in the first place. 

To Bawani, kudos to you!...I sincerely commend you, on your bravery to be able to walk to the mic, surpassed the rest of your fellowmates, speaking courageously and openly addressing your concerns on behalf of the Malaysians. 

You stood your ground. You inspired your nation.

I am with you.

"What-it-should-be"...Not in Reality

 He started to sob quietly...

"...I shouldn't have spoken to him in such a manner. I was rude to him. I was sinful by doing so. I felt a sense of regret to having to do so..."
"...but you did what you needed to make things better. It's totally fine as probably that is the only way to spark him the light..."
"...yeah, I know...but...niat tidak menghalalkan perbuatan...I was rude and sinful to him...I have no rights whatsoever to be rude to him. Nothing much of a help that I'd given him...just who am I to be rude to him??..."

His cries continues...weeping...pouring his heart out expressing the emotion that sparked me to an entirely new paradigm in my entire life...

Happiness... 

Happily ever after... 
          Happily living...for the world we live in...or
                    Happily living...for the hereafter...

These terms were the terms we have always came across every now and then in our lives. We heard of them since we were in our childhood days...rowing through our adolescent "boat"...combating our times through our raging teeny boppers' spirit of retaliations...and right up to this instant...where we are supposedly to have become a fully grown and well-focused adults...hmm...have we?

Happiness...

How well do we understand what the true meanings of this term?
How much effort have we placed in our daily lives in achieving this?
How much weight does this term carries in our daily lives?
Do the effects of this term blossoms through our lives or deteriorates in manner?

On and on and on the projections of questions just kept on coming...bla bla bla...And to those questions, there are never an absolute answer to the equation of 1 + 1...yes...in life, it isn't always equals to 2.

Just to share...A story of a person's belief that I find was truly amazing, truly the awakening... 

Twelve hours before the sobbing moments...

          His mobile rang. His elder brother was on the other line. This person whom I know then went to see his brother to extend a help of a monetary request. No hesitation. The many requests that he had always obediently fulfilled. And these kind of requests have been eluminating around since twenty years ago!...Yes, twenty years!...The amount?...They are just unaccounted for. Something given knowingly nothing will ever be repaid. Lillah hi ta'ala...Nothing else. Everything this person does is only for the sake of Allah. That was his belief...his belief then...and it is still is now.
 
          He started by emphasizing the importance of a mother's feelings...to receiving of Allah's blessings on each day of our lives should the brother wishes to change his life to the better. First thing first. Yes, the mother's feeling was hurt since a long time his brother could ever remember...the determinant of our well being...be it for the world we live in now or even for the hereafter.

          Humble-turn-harsh advice to his brother. It was not a pretty picture to see. Let alone the loud exchangeable vocals to hear. Convincing his brother was never easy. Denial of facts, lame excuses over excuses...to almost pointless. Realizing the fact that he is speaking to his elder brother, he immediately apologized for the rudeness. He meant well. Nothing else was in his mind. Purely good intention, a reminder before it's too late...before the end of time.  

Hearing this real life story, this person had actually sparked me of these 4 important aspects that we sometimes might place less importance once in a while in our everyday lives...

1Mother...Redha ibu is redha Allah...the slightest hurt of a mother's feeling would disregard you from Allah's blessings.

2Neighbours...A sin of ours if there happen to be a mouth unfed within the vicinity of our neighbourhood.

3Nieces and Nephews...Our obligation to their well being and needs should one or both of their biological parents (our siblings in this case...) can't afford or had passed on.

4Wealth...Be it in monetary or assets worth wise, there lies a fraction in ours that belongs to others. We are just the "trustee" of a fraction of the savings we have. And we are completely clueless of the rightful beneficiaries...until someone "knocks" on our "door" to seek for help.

Have we set our priority engulfing the above, in a rightful and the rightfully, as Allah had expected of from us?

I can never thank this person enough for widening my life's perspective for a more meaningful journey towards Jannah...

Insya Allah...

A half cup full??...

Could we ever be the person that we always dream of to be?

Do we really have to change to be someone that we wish to become...or to become someone as others wants us to be?

Do we have the right motivation, reason, guidance or even the right tools in making those changes a reality?

Have we listened enough? Or do we listen enough?

Do we really know what do we need in manoeuvring through to that defined changes?

Could we ever able to pull through when obstacles came by knocking on the door to pay us a "visit"?

Are we persistence and resilient enough?

How would we be able to have the positive drives consistently implanted in us?

In doing so, did we get the encouraging feedbacks from our loved ones?

A continuous encouragement...a pat on back for achieving or accomplishing certain standards. Whose standards? Our standards? Or others' standards?

The reactions that we project to these questions depends on how much knowledge we have over certain motions. Be it the goods or the bads...

The more knowledge we have over one specific focus, the more confidence we would be in talking about it. The more comfortable, the higher acceptances we would have had.

So...

Absorbing more knowledge...will change ones thinking...
Changing ones thinking...will change ones principle...
Changing ones principle... will change ones belief...
Changes in ones belief will change in ones perception...
Changes in ones perception... will entirely change ones behaviour...

Really???...

Take your pick...

A half cup full...or a half cup empty??...

"Conflicts are unavoidable". Do you agree?

I was at a friend's office the other day when someone there posted me with that question. Hmm...digesting the term for a while, it made me think that there was no one single answer to it...Could be a "yes" and it could also be a "no"...or...

My 2cents personal view...It is all depends on YOU.

Conflicts are unavoidable...well...yes, this may be true...

but...

Conflicts are not always unavoidable.

We can somehow reduce the probability of the level of conflicts that might occur by applying general rule out of so many other rules...

5 main thots to think of...

1. Knowledge...how much understanding, knowledge and information do we have on the subject / talk / discussion that is to take place?
.....gather / collect info to gain the substances of the topic
.....obtain it thru reading the relevant materials, historical records, web search
.....if u need to, u may also runs thru brief interviews with relevant people
General rule...
Substance over form. The more substance you have, people are more likely to welcome your views.

2. People...how well do we know our audience?
....are they the youngsters / adults / veteran / VIPs
....are they children / school leavers / graduates / distinguished guests / home makers / locals / foreigners
....their level of education / knowledge
....their local of origin
General rule...
Different group of audience has different levels of acceptance to one topic of discussion delivered.

3. Language...how well do we speak to send the message across?
...layman's term enough to be understood?
...jargon to impress but risk of misconception?
...delivering the message with the right intonation?
General rule...
Native languages or the mother tougue are normally much simpler to be understood. However, selection of a universal language is highly important when it involves a mix intelectual levels of audience.

4. Time...How long do you take to explain your points / views? How much details are expected out of you?
...avoid lengthy explanation that might invite boredom or losing of focus to the message you are trying to convey.
...understand what details are specifically required at one particular point of time.
...remain focused on the issue discussed and not adding on a new issue without settling on the first.
General rule...
Concise, specific, few examples to enhance understanding and provide completely only as what is required at that particular time.

5. Acceptance...How well do we accept other point of views? How well do we listen to what others have to say?
...accept other views as much as you would want others to accept yours.
...agree first even though you did not agree on certain views...then, express your view as an alternative to the earlier agreed point.
General rule...
2 way of learning process. Sometimes, the more you listen, the more of your views will obtain other's attention.

Easy said than done huh??...But it's worth a try...Give it a shot!

Ink pad pleaasseeee...

PRINT...

blueprint...
paw print...
thumb print
...toe print??...eerr...what the...???

Hahahahahaha...out of a sudden the word print just sends me giggles thru my system....hahahahaha...here was what happened...and it is more than just a snippet...

Back in 1990, I was on a shift job at KFC...yup, on it temporarily while waiting for my SPM results. There, I first started as a floorstaff...kinda waitress at that time. It was still with a floor service where floorstaff will go to your table and get your orders. Hardly there is anymore now as mostly are with self-service where orders are made at the counters with immediate payment.

As usual of a normal practice, a newly joined will be kept busy with all kinda forms to fill...yup, that didn't exclude me...

After the closing time, apart from myself, seated at a round table in the restaurant were probably around 3 or 4 existing staff of my superiors and the floor manager. Filling up my personal particulars, on and off taking my purse to get those info...sticking up photo that I brought along earlier as was told...and again, the same particulars that i needed to fill up another form...haa...yadda yadda yadda...

Then I came to the lower end of the page...signature line and below it was a box for thumb print...hmm...ok. But just after I did all that...

"...ok, now your toe print...the right one.."
"...what??..serious??...err..."
"...yes, we normally requires that too...i know...i know...but it is no joke..."...they were full with serious facial expression ever!...

Over and over again they seriously assuring me that this was not and never a joke. This was a requirement by the top management!!!...

"...now you can take this form together with you and do it in the room over there if u r not comfortable to do it here with us around...be quick!...we need to close up the outlet...it's already late...remember, the right one!...here's the ink pad...careful!...no smudges..."...says the lady manager with pretty much a damn serious ever and kinda exhausted look...as few seconds more the clock was to strike midnite...

With an awkward feeling, mix with humour at the same time with u-must-be-kidding-me impression, i took the form and went inside a small staff room. Well...ok then...

...took my shoes off...my socks off...urrghh!!...afta a hard day at work of walking around taking and servicing customers' orders...what else to expect??...smelly feet o'coz...yikes!!...heee...syhh...

...placed my toe...yup, I remembered...the right one!...on the ink pad...rolled it to the left and then to the right...just as I was told...then, carefully stamped it in the box at the lower page of the form...just beside the box of my thumb print...rolled it to the left and then, to the right...wallah!!...perfectly happy...done with a perfect line print...no smudges...it was just perfect!...

"...there u go...done..."
"...great one!...well done!...but I guess, the top management requirement just changed a minute ago while u were "in the act"..."
"...huhh??..what do u mean?.."
"...the top only requires the thumb print now..."...and immediately all of the staff roared with great laughters...HAHAHAHHAHAHAHHA...

"...I knew it!!...I knew it!...u mean people!!!...hhhahahahahhahaha.."...can't hold my laughter any longer...yup!...I was played...and I was plaaaayed damn well!!..hahahahahahhaha...

They even told me after that how they enjoyed every single minute of me behaving and adhering to that "get-jiggy-with-it" instructions....hahahahahhahahahahahhaha....

Try to toe-print yourself peeps!...it's not easy u knoww....HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA....